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He Asked So Beautifully

And a no still felt out of reach. MAKING ROOM FOR NO, PART TWO OF FOUR (see the series) Camille is a composite drawn from several situations I have encountered. I have combined and changed details to protect the people involved. Last time, I introduced you to Camille. She is newer to a community organization …

Peacebuilding When We Disagree (Podcast)

Click here to listen to the full interview! With election season 2020 behind us, there’s a lot of talk from winning candidates about opposing …

Unpack This!

Heartful responses to microaggressions

Making Sense of These Times (Video)

In this live-streamed conversation, I discuss the opportunities that NVC provides for understanding and transforming racism.

On Facilitation, Self-Forgiveness, and Who We Ask to Carry Our Repair

Microaggression Series · Part 3 A note on this piece: the email quoted in this article is used with the writer’s permission. The …

“But Did It Really Happen?”

The Receiver’s Dilemma When Harm Goes UnacknowledgedPart 2 of 2 MICROAGGRESSION SERIES · TWO-PART SERIES In Part 1 of this series, we looked …

“But I Didn’t Mean It That Way”

Why Intention Doesn’t Cancel ImpactPart 1 of 2: Understanding the Three Types of Harm MICROAGGRESSION SERIES · TWO-PART SERIES Someone says something that …

When the Weight of the World Makes It Hard to Turn the Page

A friend and I went for a walk this morning. She is someone who loves books, the kind of person who used to …

The Shared Stage: What We Do With the Power We Have

I don’t watch the Super Bowl. Growing up between Harlem and Spanish Harlem, the game never felt like it was for me. My …
A large group of protesters gather in a city surrounded by tall buildings. Many wear masks and hold signs, including one large sign reading “TRUMP: END THE WAR ON IMMIGRANTS.”

I Was Here. I Am Not the Enemy.

I’m thinking a lot about what it means to be here — to take my stand in the times we’re living through. We …

About Privilege…

Privilege. I am privileged to meet you. That is a privilege. You have privilege. You are privileged. You are acting from privilege. One …

Practicing NVC for Social Change in Urgent Times

As systems of oppression continue to cause harm, more people are asking: how do we show up for the work for justice while …
Global majority woman with arms crossed looking doubtfully at door labeled safe space.

Beyond Safe Space

The Real Work of Facilitating Affinity Groups Q: “I was asked to facilitate an affinity space for Global Majority people in my organization. …