He Asked So Beautifully
And a no still felt out of reach. MAKING ROOM FOR NO, PART TWO OF FOUR (see the series) Camille is a composite ...
The Yes That Wasn’t
She never said yes. Everyone heard one anyway. MAKING ROOM FOR NO, PART ONE OF FOUR (see the series) Camille is a composite ...
You Don’t Know What You’re Talking About
Four Black elders, one graduation, and what they came to witness On graduation morning, I arrived at seven o’clock, for doors that would ...
When the Language of Inclusion Becomes the Language of Retreat
On the Soft Reframes That Protect the Actor Microaggression Series When I started writing about microaggressions, I expected pushback. The version I was ...
On Facilitation, Self-Forgiveness, and Who We Ask to Carry Our Repair
Microaggression Series · Part 3 A note on this piece: the email quoted in this article is used with the writer’s permission. The ...
“But Did It Really Happen?”
The Receiver’s Dilemma When Harm Goes UnacknowledgedPart 2 of 2 MICROAGGRESSION SERIES · TWO-PART SERIES In Part 1 of this series, we looked ...
“But I Didn’t Mean It That Way”
Why Intention Doesn’t Cancel ImpactPart 1 of 2: Understanding the Three Types of Harm MICROAGGRESSION SERIES · TWO-PART SERIES Someone says something that ...
When No One Steps In
The Silent Endorsement of Microaggressions She was just shopping. At Costco, a Latina woman picked up an item to put in her cart. ...
Don’t Call Me White!
Q: How do we address/what can we do to address the language and logic of micro-aggressions being appropriated by members of the dominant ...
Where Are You From?
“Where Are You From?” Q: I just started a new job. When I asked a coworker of Asian descent where they were from, ...
You’re So Articulate!
“You’re so articulate!” Q: I’m a dark skinned, black person with college educated parents and a college degree. I’m met again and again with ...
Why don’t they get it?
Does this seem familiar? You’re in a meeting. Maybe it’s a workshop around equity and social justice issues, maybe it’s your community group ...
The Power of Authenticity + Care
Where in your life do you stay silent and not show up fully? What prevents you from showing up? Do you wonder if ...